There’s kind of a wackiness going on these days that tends
to polarize people and make them defensive with one another. When people think differently from one
another with passion, it can turn to judgement and alienation. What’s needed is an understanding of how people think so we can give up the resistance to each other based on pre-conceived
ideas.
So I offer this discussion starter to help liberals
understand conservatives, and help conservatives understand liberals. It’s too
easy to villainize each other. Both sides think they’re the good guys, and
they are. We’re all good guys. What is needed is an understanding of what
makes those difficult-to-understand-and-different-from-us folks tick.
“Conservative”
and “liberal” tend to be political terms in
today’s climate, and I do not want this to be a political discussion. I want it to be a discussion about human
beings, about how we tend to engage with each
other and with social issues of our day.
So, from here on out, I will use the term “traditionalist” to refer to generally
conservative viewpoints, and “progressive” to refer to generally liberal
viewpoints.
Keep in mind there are not just two groups. Each of us lands on a continuum between the
extremes. You will likely find elements
of both positions within you.
Traditionalists see the chaotic world and long for the ‘good
old days’ when life was simpler. They
prefer order and simplicity. Ambiguity tends to make them anxious, so
often black and white thinking is
preferred, where answers are predictable and unchanging. In an attempt to try to control change, they
prefer to backtrack to the past. Scientific
discoveries are not regarded with enthusiasm if they do not match what is
already believed.
Since for traditionalists, there is clear right and wrong,
the end justifies the means. What progressives
may see as rude, cruel, or disrespectful behavior, traditionalists may see as needed,
appropriate, and justified to return us to the right path. Both traditionalists and progressives share
the goal of making the world a better place.
Progressives, instead of looking backward, look forward to
the possibility of finding better ways of doing things. Instead of being threatened by ambiguity, progressives
believe that exploring the unknown, as well as the known, leads to valuable
learning. New ideas are encouraged. For example, instead of supporting conventional attitudes
about men having advantages over women, progressives think seeing the
genders as equals holds more potential.
Equal pay for equal work. Respect
is for all human beings alike.
Traditionalists are prone to scarcity thinking. There is
often worry about losing what they have. For example, they may be afraid
there’s not enough money to go around, where progressives will see there is plenty of money to go
around for everyone to have a good life.
Whereas traditionalists tend to see those different from
them (other races, religions, etc.) as threats, progressives seek the positives
of diversity. Where traditionalists may
see scientific discoveries and new data as irrelevant, progressives consider it
advantageous to embrace information unknown in the past. While progressives tend to see traditionalists
as being uninformed or selfish, traditionalists tend to see progressives as
immoral.
For progressives, the
end does not justify the means. The
means is important for them because having respect for the planet, animals, women,
strangers, etc. is a matter of integrity.
For them, your example is as important as your words.
Traditionalists tend to operate with a mind-set of separation. Some people are better than others. Some people deserve more. They often think in terms of win-lose.
Progressives tend to operate with the mind-set of unity.
Instead of needing to beat those who are different, it’s more gratifying
to progressives to join with, work with, and co-operate with those different from
them. They often think in terms of
win-win.
As opposed to black & white thinking, progressives often see gray areas in
life’s challenges. In addition to what
people do, their motivation for doing what they do is deemed significant. While
traditionalists tend to be motivated by
fear of things changing for the worse (taking in refugees will hurt us),
progressives tend to be motivated by love
and compassion (refugees need places to live and food to eat). Traditionalists often also say they are
motivated by love. This kind of love
often means controlling others (believe in God the way I do; don't be gay; don't be transsexual; don't use birth control), while for the Progressives,
love means setting people free (connect with God in the way of your choice; be who you are).
Both traditionalists and progressives claim to value
truth. When traditionalists speak of
truth, they are often referring to assumed
truth, whereas liberals are often thinking of verifiable truth. For
example, one group may say they have not noticed a change in weather around
them and think that global warming is a myth, where the other observes melting
glaciers, rising oceans, and more than 100 years of data to come to an opposite
conclusion. Can you tell which group is which?
Traditionalists often generalize
from isolated incidents (a
terrorist claims to be Muslim, so we should fear all Muslims as potential terrorists),
where progressives tend to consider broader, inclusive collection of information in order to clarify what is
real for them (Muslims are a peace-loving people. Only extremists Muslims are terrorists; much
like extremist Christians.)
Traditionalists stand for individual freedom while trying to get others to do the right
thing. (stand during national anthem, and others should too). Progressives advocate for collective freedom for everyone
(standing or kneeling for national anthem OK).
What progressives see racism, traditionalists see as keeping order.
In the Western world, seeing these varied perspectives makes
it easier to understand why traditionalists might have a desire for literal
interpretations of their Christian Bible, while progressive Christians notice
the contradictions of the passages, the contexts in which the words were
written, and are open to new discoveries about the writings that have not been
assumed in the past. Both love God, and both want to be
right.
Traditionalist’s of many faiths often see a God who will
punish them for not believing the right thing, and may therefore be more
dogmatic about their beliefs. They want to keep people on the straight and narrow. Progressive
people of faith see a compassionate and caring God, who does not punish them
for seeking truth with interest and openness.
Both groups will often see themselves as being “fair”. For progressives, “fair” usually means
everyone has equal opportunity. For
traditionalists, “fair” often means it’s OK for one group to have more than
others, because they think they worked harder for it. As they see it, some people have less than others because they are lazy or made poor decisions that determined their fate. Traditionalists do not want to support laziness. Traditionalists often embrace a “me first” viewpoint (scarcity); whereas
progressives will embrace that every human’s needs are important (inclusion, abundance). Progressives can be concerned that struggling humans may not have had the same opportunities as those who are making a go of it.
When engaging a traditionalist, look for the need for order,
simplicity, the safety of black & white thinking, individual freedom, and
the fear that change and openness will threaten them somehow. Progressives must be sensitive and honoring
of that fear, not ridicule it.
When engaging a progressive, look for that person to value
openness and complexity, learning new information, inclusiveness, verifiable
truth, collective freedom, and to see gray areas to issues.
Here are some modern-day examples examined in more depth:
Immigration:
In our national conflict over immigration, a traditionalist often holds the view that an undocumented immigrant should be labeled “illegal” and be
punished, because they aren’t following established rules, no matter how
outdated they may be. The progressive
mind is more likely to see beyond the black/white thinking that “illegal” means
“wrong”, and ask why are these illegals willing to risk breaking the law at all? The progressive considers broader
perspectives based on research such as our need for immigrants to keep our
economy going, that our system is flawed in welcoming them into our country,
and the problem may be our immigration policies, not the incoming
strangers. The progressive understands
that labeling these new-comers “illegal” judges them as enemies (separate), not
as comrades in the human race, and brothers an sisters in need of our love
(unity; oneness).
Traditionalists are less likely to consider what immigrants
are fleeing, which may include escape from poverty, murder, and death. These are relevant factors to a progressive. Traditionalists are more concerned about
their own safety, and may justify mistreating people because they are breaking
the established norm. They may judge the
newcomer as trying to get something they don’t deserve, or are otherwise bad
people. Progressives are less likely to see fleeing danger in desperation as
sufficient reason to label someone bad, lazy, or evil. Although there may be a few foreigner “bad
apples”, progressives believe that most human beings are good people, no matter
where they come from. Traditionalists
tend to move quickly to suspicion, while progressives are quick to trust.
The progressive mind includes compassion, impartiality, and
privilege in their decision-making, where the traditionalist does not often see
their privilege. Traditionalists can be afraid that strangers will take
something from them (jobs, welfare money, or hurt them physically), and are just trying to be protective of themselves, their country, and those they love. Progressives
see the value of these strangers as contributors to the good of all, and see it
as America’s responsibility to make it easier for those in need or those
seeking a better life to cross our borders legally.
Traditionalists may justify separating families of newcomers
at our border, believing they are dangerous to our society or that punishment
will keep people in line. This does not
make sense to progressives who may be open to the knowledge that illegal immigrants are statistically
less (25% less) likely to commit violent crimes than native-born Americans. Traditionalists
are also prone to be frightened of terrorists crossing our borders from foreign
lands. The progressive finds it much
more difficult to be afraid of this, knowing that fewer than 1/100th
of 1% of terrorist attacks in the US are committed by foreigners.
The fears of traditionalists often prevent them from looking
at or caring about factual information. They don't trust it. For progressives, the research matters.
It’s harder for a progressive to be afraid of foreigners when they know from
sources (like the Cato Institute), that the chances of an American being killed
by a foreign terrorist in any given year is 1 in 10.9 billion. Logically, progressives would say we should
be much more afraid of being struck by lightening (nearly 11,000 times more
likely than being killed by a foreign terrorist) or dying by falling out of bed
(767 times more likely).
Abortion:
Just as a progressive may judge a traditionalist for being
insensitive to the needs of others, traditionalists often villainize progressives
for valuing what a pregnant woman feels is best for her and her entire family,
rather than accepting an unwanted pregnancy. The progressive is more likely to value compassion for a pregnant women as relevant.
It is simple and orderly for a traditionalist to see a pregnancy as God’s will not to be messed with, where the progressive considers other factors such as how this may condemn the mother to poverty, leave the potential child hungry, uneducated, or in an unloved, neglected, or abusive family. In wanting to return to an unchanging stability, a traditionalist may believe a women should not have a choice as to whether they want to, or when they are ready to, provide a child with a loving home. Women should be forced to have children (simple, controlling), even if they don’t want to or aren’t capable of raising them. Women do not have the same rights as men (separation) to control whether they become parents or when. The traditionalist may see the issue as a simple one: Abortion is killing babies, and so it’s wrong, period!
It is simple and orderly for a traditionalist to see a pregnancy as God’s will not to be messed with, where the progressive considers other factors such as how this may condemn the mother to poverty, leave the potential child hungry, uneducated, or in an unloved, neglected, or abusive family. In wanting to return to an unchanging stability, a traditionalist may believe a women should not have a choice as to whether they want to, or when they are ready to, provide a child with a loving home. Women should be forced to have children (simple, controlling), even if they don’t want to or aren’t capable of raising them. Women do not have the same rights as men (separation) to control whether they become parents or when. The traditionalist may see the issue as a simple one: Abortion is killing babies, and so it’s wrong, period!
Traditionalist “pro-lifers” often generalize progressives as
“pro-abortion” (simplicity/ black & white), even though many progressives
are not. Progressives are often willing
to consider abortion as part of the equation in complicated decision-making.
Many traditionalists want to close family planning clinics
that also offer abortions, thinking this will help prevent them. Progressives, have a hard time seeing this,
since they are aware closing family planning clinics does not prevent abortions, but instead makes the inevitable abortions more dangerous. Progressives are more likely to see that
making abortions illegal hasn’t stopped them anywhere in the world, or at any
time in history. They would rather see
more family planning clinics to help prevent abortions, knowing that when
families can be planned, many abortions can be averted. (Research has shown that ready access to
family planning could prevent as many as 350,000 abortions per year in the
US.)
Gun Control
Interestingly, traditionalists who tend to stand for the
lives of the unborn, do not always hold this pro-life stance when it comes to
gun safety. The nearly 85 Americans
whose lives are lost everyday take a low priority when it comes to managing the
guns that kill them. Simplicity & individual freedom (2nd
Amendment guarantees rights to own guns), fear (that we won’t be able to
protect ourselves, or ‘they’ll take all our guns’), and black & white
thinking (the 2nd Amendment guarantees no limitation on one’s
arsenal, and does not allow for regulation), lead a traditionalist toward a
rigid response to problem solving around gun safety. Progressives are able to see more options,
where the right to gun ownership can be balanced with the rights of others to
live.
Traditionalists often believe (note the fear) that having a
gun makes their family safer. Progressives take a broader view, open to readily
available information that shows a person is 3 times more likely to be hurt or
killed by a gun if that person has one in their home. Traditionalists often also will take the
position that they should be able to take guns with them wherever they go, because ‘the only way
to stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun’. They
are trying to stop violence. This runs contrary to the research that informs us
guns are fired offensively more than 99% of the time, and in less than 1% of
the cases is a gun used defensively.
Progressives are open to the data that despite an average of one mass
shooting in the United States per day, a civilian good guy with a gun has not
stopped a mass shooting in the last 30 years. Over that time, however, nearly 1
million citizens have lost their lives to guns.
So, where does this leave us?
Instead of judging our neighbor for views different than ours,
a healthier approach is to seek to understand their model of the world. There is greater chance for appreciation and
acceptance when we not only know what people believe, but why they believe
it.
Think simplicity, order, individual freedom, fear, scarcity,
and black & white thinking, vs. inclusiveness, collective freedom, love,
abundance thinking and gray areas. Both groups are motivated by what they
believe is the truth about the world. So the next time you find yourself disagreeing with
somebody, think about how they are trying to make the world a better place!
What are your perspectives? No doubt you have a view or two yourself that
could add to the discussion. Thank you
for responding respectfully.